The bond we have is almost like the bond I have with God. And no amount of contracts, technology, emotional manipulation, and money is ever going to rip her eye colors from my irises, or her dimples off my cheeks, or her lips off my smile, or tear her out of my DNA. Like other children raised apart from their biological parent(s), these twins may wonder about and search for their missing mother, hoping to see their features reflected in her face, obtain their complete medical history, or perhaps ask “ how could you abandon me?” Even when raised in a heterosexual home, children separated from their genetic mother often feel that knowing her is critical to their identity: Whether that woman is also their birth mother, or if these babies were purchased from an egg “donor” catalogue, they will likely experience the identity struggles long observed in adopted children and now reported by donor-conceived children as well. These twins will be separated from their genetic mother. And if they are the result of surrogacy? It’s possible these babies have actually lost three mothers. For these twins, the cost of their “two dads” photoshoot comes at the high price of losing their mother. But the central characters of this saga aren’t the adults, they’re the children.
If the birthday of these two precious babies was simply about celebrating adult desires, then fanfare is in order. While there are scenarios where a gay couple may be the best available placement for a child, given the 1-2 million couples seeking to adopt 20,000 available newborns each year, it’s doubtful that a married mother and father were unavailable for these twins.
Adoption is an institution centered around the best interest of children, Big Fertility is a marketplace centered around the desires (and checkbooks) of adults.īut part of adoption’s “best interest of the children” involves prioritizing mothers and fathers. When it comes to children’s rights, there’s a big difference between adoption and third-party reproduction. Photoshoot comes at the high price: Twins losing their mother Whether intended parents shelling out six-figures are seeking more “ bang for their buck,” or in the case of gay couples where both men want a genetic tie to their offspring, twins are a staple of surrogate pregnancies. It’s more probable that these children were manufactured by Big Fertility and gestated in a hired womb, an assumption informed by the fact that the likelihood of twins jumps to 40% in IVF procedures, which is of course the only route to a surrogate pregnancy. Could it be that following Chasten’s July Washington Post interview in which he mentioned their desire to adopt, a birth mother in her last trimester, in the rare 2% of women who naturally conceived twins no less, suddenly decided to place her babies with the celebrity couple? Possible, but unlikely. More accurately, two men, who are biologically prohibited from “becoming” parents without the involvement and sacrifice of a woman or two, have acquired children.Įven more disquieting, their photo announcement featured the pair seated on a hospital bed, displacing the woman who carried these babies for nine months and labored to bring them into the world.Īll the usual media suspects celebrated the arrival of the Buttigieg’s “adopted” children, although the men have been suspiciously quiet regarding the children’s origins. Odd phrasing, that “becoming parents” verbiage. Pete Buttigieg’s weekend announcement that he and “husband” Chasten are “ becoming parents” of twins had the Twitterverse abuzz.
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